Saturday, October 10, 1998

Silence (or Guidelines for the Perfect Wife)

Her silence means yes
but her silence can also mean no.
That’s okay.

Before, 
her silence is acceptance.
After,
her silence is usually
bland and uncomplaining.

When he accuses,
her silence is contrition.
When he bullies,
her silence is resentment.
When he begs, 
her silence is dominance.
When he boasts,
her silence is tolerance.
When he argues,
her silence is rebuttal.
When he praises,
her silence is complacence.

When he lies,
her silence is disapproval
Or sometimes conspiracy.

When he falls,
her silence is empathy
Or sometimes scorn.
When she suspects him,
Her silence is cynicism.

When he’s upset, 
her silence is comfort.
When he’s neglectful,
her silence is reproach.
When he’s unreasonable,
her silence is restraint.
When he takes charge,
her silence is benign.
When he’s loving,
her silence is gratitude.
When he’s happy,
her silence is peace.
When he’s sad,
her silence is compassion.
When he’s angry, 
her silence is fear.
When he batters,
her silence is a prayer.

When he’s silent, 
her silence is respect.

When he speaks, 
her silence 
is sufficient.

Thursday, October 1, 1998

Hospital liquids

saline in drip
urine in bedpan
pus in wounds

tears in eyes.

Tuesday, September 1, 1998

Complete Woman (or My Assets)

I have got
a sound background
of education ...
travel ...
social standing ...
property, affluence ...
professional recognition ...
a happy family.

However.

However – 
people seem to respect me more
when I wear
lipstick
and my pearls.

first appeared in Brown Critique magazine Aug 1998

Sunday, August 16, 1998

Why, oh god, why?

The primary impediment
To my spiritual development
Is shit.

(I mean the matter, not the expletive)

I   meditate,
And my visions of bliss
Are startled away
By the disgusting fact
Of faeces.

I want no part of an eternity
that admits so freely
of the ugly, stinking stuff.

I simply do not wish
to merge my All
in a cosmic consciousness of which
unflushed turds
form an ineludible part.

first appeared in Brown Critique magazine Aug 1998

Saturday, August 1, 1998

Pratibha and her memsaab

Six am
I lie in bed,
and the kids
are getting ready for school.
She’s polished their shoes,
fixed their lunch boxes,
and brings me my cup of tea -
gives them breakfast and
attends to their sundry needs.

Languorous morning.
telephone calls.
newspapers.
tea with biscuits.
Bye, kiddies! Have a wonderful day!
lovely long hot shower.

She cleans the house.

Should I work or play?
Bridge and gossip.
a TV movie, perhaps (with chocolates)
some idle clattering
on the key board.
(750 words)
with a cheque to look forward to.

Suddenly,
it starts to rain,
so she runs to bring the clothes in.
irons them.
puts them away
neatly
in individual cupboards.

twenty,
dimpled,
earnest and sincere.
a battered child bride.
perpetually in regret
of her lack of education.
money in the bank.

share certificate, thin gold chain, earrings
and flashy gold ring.

WHERE’S MY
ruler, science book, basketball, bubble gum ...
The kids are home
and bawling her out.
she warms the milk,
cuts fruit for them to eat.
then proceeds with getting
the dinner ready.

ten pm
The News.
after-dinner lounging-around.
she’s washing up.

should we be grateful for her
or she for us?

First appeared in Brown Critique magazine Aug 1998

Saturday, May 30, 1998

From Russia with love

What struck me most the first time I visited Russia was that there were no spies anywhere. Perfectly normal people walked down the street on their way to work, to shops, or home, or to pick up their kids. They smiled at each other, and behaved like people do anywhere. None of that sinister cloak and dagger business anywhere at all. Amazing.
James Hadley Chase, Leon Uris and Ian Fleming, and the Western media in general, had helped create internal archetypes which, it had never occurred to me, were ridiculous. I – and so many of my generation – had been thoroughly conditioned by the great American concepts of the evil of communism and the essential villainy of the Russian. It took me several months to recover from the experience of strangeness that Russia was a normal place with normal people. Today the clichéd vision of Russian as KGB spy is somewhat outdated, having given way to one of an abject, poverty-stricken individual belonging to a nation driven to its knees by the might of capitalism. Poor fellow. Yet another stereotype.
Between these two extremes, I had a range of tourist experiences. On my first trip, I met a young Russian woman who longed to marry the Indian film actor Mithun Chakraborty. She had, she confided, seen his film Disco Dancer forty-two times. She had written a letter to him, describing her passion, devotion, and intentions, and entrusted it to my care to post to Mr Chakraborty.
As it happened, in those days I lived just down the road from the disco dancer. I had seen his nameplate when I went to visit a classmate who lived in the same building – although, to be frank, I never once bumped into the much-desired gentleman in the lift. So I knew what address to mail her letter to, and did. I don’t know if there was any happily-ever-after there, but we would doubtless have heard about it if there had been.
With the Kulbakin family at House of Soviet Culture, Mumbai,
in 1982 
What astounded me most about this episode was that the young lady who wanted to marry Mithun was twenty-three years old; not a goggle-eyed teenager. I was precisely the same age at the time, and considered myself a mighty sophisticated woman of the world – though I persisted in refusing to drink wine for fear of what might happen next. I just could not believe that she was serious.
But I believed it when she brought her mother to meet me the day we were leaving. We got along very well. I had been trying to learn Russian for a year by then, and could manage some basic conversation. A while later, her mother took me aside and pulled out her wallet. Rolling her eyes and making mmm…mmm noises, she slid out a picture from a secret compartment and showed it to me coyly. It was a photo of Amitabh Bachchan. Of course I knew where Amitabh Bachchan lived. Hardly anyone in Bombay could escape that knowledge. But in this case, I desisted from trying to arrange an alliance.
first appeared as a Times of India Middle on 29 May 1998

Wednesday, April 15, 1998

How I transformed myself

I walked smartly down the corridor,
and from the corner of my eye
I inspected my reflection
In the reflecting glass wall
overlooking the runaway
at Sahar airport.

All around me,
people were dressed in their best,
and looked beautiful.
(After all, they were travelling abroad.)

Only I was ungainly,
too fat,
and my stomach protruded.
What a strange, unattractive gait I  had!

Then I thought – 
let me pretend
that the reflection is someone else,
that the woman in the glass wall
is a stranger.

Suddenly I saw
the woman in the glass wall
transformed.

She was beautiful and appealing
and even glamorous.
and I felt much better.